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"James Tidmarsh

The tyranny of tipping
Why should I be expected to pay extra?"

https://www.spectator.co.uk/article/the-tyranny-of-tipping/

The only thing worse than tipping is people complaining about tipping.

I am going to complain about the people who complain about tipping. I tip if I have enough money (I don't always). Be good to the staff because one day that will be you.

No. Just charge me what the thing costs and pay the person serving appropriately. It's not the cost I object to, it's a fundamentally embarassing transaction. I don't like the implied superior/supplicant relationship. If you are comfortable with it I doubt you are truly British.

FPT: Francis Urquart said about Utah: "The stat I remember (I don't know if it is still true) SLC, some of the highest academic achievement levels in the whole of the US, one of the highest suicide rates."

Here's the data: https://www.cdc.gov/suicide/facts/rates-by-state.html

At a quick glance, what I see is that states with harsh winters tend to have higher suicide rates -- but I would need to see more data before I was certain of that correlation.

Looking at that map, I think (with the exception of Utah) the strongest correlation is probablty with alcoholism rates.

I just ran an analysis, and it staggering how strong the correlation between alcoholism and suicide is in the US (outside Utah).

One caused by the other? Or both symptoms of a depressing existence?
I'm always wary of American figures for alcoholism. What Americans conisder problem drinking is what Europeans consider a quiet Thursday.

Craig Murray jumping the shark

'@CraigMurrayOrg
A day I shall never forget.
Speaking at the UN in Geneva in favour of Scottish Independence, I stated that the UK is a force for evil in the world.
And people from all over the globe interrupted with spontaneous applause'
https://x.com/CraigMurrayOrg/status/1968720543416287530

O wad some Power the giftie gie us
To see oursels as ithers see us!
It wad frae mony a blunder free us,
An' foolish notion.

Perhaps I'm reaching here, but I doubt if those who are applauding are the representatives of liberal democracies.

The kinds of states that Craig Murray admires are the places that people escape from, rather than escape to.

What's the most alarming thing to me is that 2025 looks like it will have higher borrowing than 2021 which was a full pandemic year where tax receipts were down and we had huge subsidy schemes running. Labour have, in just one year, complete blown the budget to the extent that we're going to borrow more than when the government was paying millions furlough money.

It's a complete shit show, Liz Truss in slow motion.

Where is all the extra borrowing going? NHS, debt interest, ?

Some of it is debt interest, but mostly it's just payroll, welfare and pensions.

We're in a proper bloody mess. I'm sticking with the fundamentals being broken:
Cost of living crisis means less cash circulating which kills growth
Public services are simultaneously vastly expensive and delivering crap service
Society is fraying at the edges

Lets start with the cost of living - two massive drivers are energy and housing. We can't immediately fix housing - we lack both the workforce and the bricks to build sufficient housing even if people could afford to buy them. But we could declare war on the problem to at least get started.
We can do something about energy. Our leccy bills are absurdly high because we almost entirely set the price on gas, and as we have minimal storage its the spot price. Despite only using gas a quarter of the time for actual generation, it sets the price all the time. So do as Spain did and decouple. Easier to do outside the EU. Set the price based on what we are actually using for power generation and bills drop instantly. Which makes *everything* cheaper.

Starmer and the team are rabbits in the headlights.

In other news, my son starting secondary school has been a little bit of an eye-opener on the way education has changed in the near-35 years since I left school.

The school gives every child an iPad (*). But as parents, we get web access to his due homework, and the grades for completed homework. His attendance, twice a day. His full timetable and teachers for each class, his behaviour, and any detentions. Even what he chose for dinner.

This seems massively more information, and much more immediate, than my parents got from my schools.

Whether it improves grades or not is a different matter...

(*) Which we pay for, obvs.

I appreciate that this is how the world is now, and Medical Students wander round with iPads much the same.

Surely an essential part of parenting is letting go, and letting kids have some private life, make their own mistakes, learn the consequences of not doing homework on time etc. It all looks open to way too much over parenting to me.

I think it might enable more over-parenting, if parents are so inclined. I doubt I'll be going onto the portals every morning and afternoon to see if he's in school, for instance, but some may. And for the first few weeks I may check each weekend to see what homework needs doing. But if he manages to do it without me, I'll probably stop doing that. He needs to learn more independence and self-dependence as he grows older.

Yes, there may be negatives. But only if you use it in such a way. Otherwise, it may be useful information.

There is a growing body of evidence that "over-parenting" is part of the youth mental health crisis.

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9811893/#:~:text=For example, an overparenting parent,on behalf of their child.

I am sure that parental neglect is an even bigger problem too. Getting the balance right of letting go, but being a safe loving haven is quite a challenge.

Yes, it reminds a bit of the somewhat romanticised view of past childhood where kids might be out for hours at 8 years old with parents no idea where they were, vs parents terrified of a teenager going alone to the local shop or something and helicopter parenting. Has to be a balance surely.

Independence was not much of a choice for many parents previously, of course. My poor mum certainly couldn't keep an eye on 4 kids by herself whilst working full time. Had some upsides and some downsides.

IMV it depends on the kid. Some kids are very self-reliant early, and other kids need more help. And it can vary not just from kid to kid, but also within a kid: one kid may be very able to sort out homework and schoolwork, but also be able to utterly lose track of time when out alone. Support them where (and when) they need support. It's a fine line.

Yes, probably too much rigidity on what the 'right' approach is, and of course parents are bombarded with thoughts on what is right or not, which is a recipe for second guessing trouble.

I was a firm believer in nurture over nature until I had kids.